You only know what you know, and you don’t know what you don’t know, right? So how do you know if you’re angry or unhappy if you’re used to being and feeling the way you do? Usually, we feel anger or unhappiness, and can identify this emotions and feelings right away. But when we’ve been unhappy, angry or resentful for a while, the way we act may have ended up becoming second nature, and although it’s not apparent to you that you’re angry, unhappy, or resentful, it is apparent to others. How? By the way we respond, or rather, if we react.
You may not necessarily notice at first, but if you find that your responses are reactive, aggressive, defensive, snarky, or that you’ve taken what the other person has said personally, and you feel the need to go on the defence, you may be angry or resentful or unhappy, and haven’t realize it. If this sounds like you, it’s ok. Sometimes we get caught up in life and in return, life catches up with us, and we realize we’re not com in across as happy, kind, or nice as we think we are, or have been.
Case in point: Person A asks Person B a question. A gets an answer, a good answer, but doesn’t get the answer they wanted. An outsider would know that the answer makes sense, but when it’s one that doesn’t make sense to you, as in with Person A, it may be because it’s not what you want to hear. You pursue your response in defensiveness and, or, with an irritated lilt to your tone and your words, and it becomes easy to conclude that A is taking B’s answer personally and oppositionally, thus making it apparent that there may be buried anger, resentment, and, or, unhappiness.
It may be time to look at the bigger picture. The world isn’t against you, although it may feel like it. It may be that your unhappiness is the cause of your perception that things have become difficult or a problem, or that others are “against’ you, not responsive to you, or are treating you unfairly. If you’re unhappy, angry, or resentful, there is a fix.
Let’s talk. I know that dealing with the emotional is painful, but living with emotional pain is even more emotionally painful, but you don’t have to live there. You deserve to live in happy. Would you like to talk?
I’m ready to listen. Connect with me anytime. Are you ready? Let’ go get your happy.