Sometimes, how you say what you say, what tone and affect you have, says more than the words themselves. Sometimes, saying nothing, says everything.
Language can be described as descriptive, full of emotion, belief, and intention, it’s purpose is to convey meaning, feeling, direction, and messaging. Language is described as how we verbally communicate and understand each other, and while there are other, overt. covert, and subliminal ways in which we communicate and relay our feelings and intentions we are often not so aware of, sometimes, what we do, and how we behave, often speaks louder than our words, and conveys other, more subliminal adjunctive intentions, sentiments or objectives.
At the end of the day, the key to any successful and healthy Relationship is communicating well. Communication has many facets, like verbal language, body language and physical behaviours, how well we listen, how well we hear, our responsiveness and reactiveness, how we express our feelings, our facial expressions, and how we use space. All these aspects of Communication translate how, and if, we are going to be understood, how we understand each other, and how we live socially and successfully, together. When all these aspects of communication come together, we have healthy relationships. But there’s more….
How Do We Instantaneously Create Healthy Relationships?
Whether it’s with your partner, spouse, child, relative, neighbour, friend, boss or co-worker, there are several aspects of language that help create the perfect platform for a successful, interactive, and non-threatening relationship.
Here are 6 places to start, and you’re on your way….
1.Go In Without Expectation. It’s all about Mindset, a key component of how you’re going to structure the language you’re going to choose to use to translate your thoughts, feelings, ideas, or beliefs. Before you open your mouth, remember that any successful conversation has two sides. Commit to be flexible, be prepared to offer suggestions and alternatives, and if you’re not getting your way, you’re not in a conversation; you’re in a one-sided vault to nowhere-land, and on a quick and slippery path towards walls, fences, and daggers.
2. Leave Your Ego At The Door. We all know, the ego wants, what the ego wants. But the ego ain’t goin’ to get anywhere by bullying or bulldozing it’s way to success. It’s an epic hyper fail. If you’re a parent, you this methodology doesn’t work; you won’t get anywhere with your little darling if they’re swirling and you’re yelling. Conversational and Communication are successful when you’re mindset is win-win, and you’re willing to listen, hear, compromise, and be even-keeled about yourself.